I’ve always wondered why people tend to look at me when they are speaking…
I remember back when I was still at my old dance studio in 8th grade that my ballet teacher would drift her conversations toward me. I think I figured out that, if I looked awake (dance class was at 9 AM) and I looked like I knew exactly what she was talking about (I really did, though!), her little critiques and comments took less time and we got back to dancing sooner. If no one was paying attention, she would scold all of us for not being there in the moment and stuff like that. It all makes sense, but I’m so glad that I figured this out earlier than later.
This definitely carried me through high school…
…and even now that I am in college. When someone is talking to a group that I involved with, I’ve always noticed that people constantly look at me. I’m pretty sure that it’s because I am one of the only ones who is ACTUALLY looking back at them. So, I decided to ask… My a cappella group was practice performing our set for a performance coming up and one of the members who is the “performance manager” just kept looking at me while discussing our performance.
“Why do you keep looking at meeee?!” I asked with a flustered look upon my face.
“Well, you smiled at me, so I wanted to smile at you!” she replied back.
What a great answer!
It never occurred to me that this was why people would always look my way when they were talking. I was giving them “facial feedback” through my facial expressions, whereas others were probably staring off into space or falling asleep. I don’t think I do anything too drastic! …maybe just open my eyes a bit wider, nod my head, and give a small smile to let them know that they were being payed attention to. I just hate it when I’m not being payed any attention, so I try to do at least this for others.
You should try it! It’s quite amusing!